Day 6

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Time flies and it’s almost a week since Baby Aidan was born……Hubs is back to work and what’s left is my mom and maid to help me out with Aidan and Ashley. My dad will only be coming over at the end of this week. Aidan is drinking more and more by the day and we absolutely love the sound of him cryingย – not that we like him to cry all the time…but when the lil fella cries, he sounds helpless and his cries are so soft…I will video it and post it up (someday….Uploading videos to YouTube takes ages la..)

Urut (massage)

I engaged the services of Kak Yati to do the traditional Malay urut, Tungkuh and Bengkung for me this time round. So tonight was the first session. So as I am typing this, my abdomen is being bound tightly with the kain belacu (I used the long material as opposed to the modern corset one instead). On top of that, I am also wearing the velcro belt thingy to make the bengkung tighter. yea…..all in the vain of beauty!:)

Naughty Step Techniqueย 

I lost my cool with Ashley the night before and I introduced the “Naughty Step” technique by Jo Frost. She wasn’t behaving herself at the dinner table and kept standing on the dinner table chair (refused to sit in her own chair) and took the spoon and dipped it in every plate on the table. When she didn’t get what she wanted, she’d whine and cried. There I was, so sick and tired of listening to her cries and I lost my cool. I raised my voice, spanked her on her buttocks and carried her to the bottom of the stairs which was at the corner of the house and asked her to sit there until finished crying and I left her there. She ran after me and I brought her back to her naughty corner and asked her to sit there until she finished crying and then only I’d come and get her. And so..the drama continued and she cried and cried and cried, face down on the floor by the bottom of the stairs for a good 5 minutes. My mom stood up a few times wanting to go to Ashley to console her but I forbade her to do so. Yes…I did feel so bad for doing this to Ashley but this lil missy needs to be disciplined or else she’d be a spoilt-brat of a monster in the making. When she stopped crying, I went to her. She hugged me…..

Mommy : The next time you don’t listen and when you’re naughty, Mommy/Daddy will bring you here to the naughty corner until you stop crying ok?

Ashley : Ok

Mommy : Mommy sayang Ashley ok?

Ashley : Ok

Mommy : Are you still going to be naughty?

Ashley : Yes (*slap head*)

Mommy : Do you sayang mommy? (Gotta check whether she still sayang me ma…since I was the one who punished her ..heheh)

Ashley : Yes

Mommy : Ok, now we go back to the dinner table. You hold mommy’s hand ok?

Ashley : Ok (She’d usually want me to carry her instead)

Mommy : When we are there, you MUST sit on the chair and CANNOT stand up on the chair ok?

Ashley : Ok

And so I brought lil missy back to the dinner table and she was very well behaved then……

I did and still do feel guilty for losing my cool but the Naughty Step technique did work. Kudos to Jo Frost!

Anyhow thanks to all the advice on handling Ashley. I think we handled or rather..managed her rather well today. My mom took care of Aidan most of the time and Ashley was with me. As long as I am not with her and Aidan together, Ashley is fine…….She still loves her baby brother and always ask for him when she wakes up. It’s only when I feed Aidan that she gets jeolous. Now Ashley refuses to hold her own bottle when she drinks her milk and she’d insist that I hold it for her….Anyhow, we get her involved in caring for Aidan and I’m sure the situation will improve over time….like most have said….it’s a phase and it will pass. Yes..and we’re all hanging in there…:)

P/S I’m a ghost blog reader now (will not be leaving any comments) – at least for this month or 2 while I am on maternity..ย leave..:) ….so although I may not leave any footprints…I’d still know what you all are up to…..

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24 Comments

  1. This technique always work … careful not to over-use. My bloody pressure rises almost everyday. That’s why a parent’s voice gets louder as each baby arrive … imagine if you were to have 5 kids …. woah!! Your voice could even be heard from miles away … hehhe. ๐Ÿ˜›

  2. Well done, mommy! That’s not losing your cool at all. If it was me and I’ve been there done that– my whole neighbourhood can hear me yell. I’m starting to apply the naughty mat. Anywhere else she goes, someone is bound to rescue her. At least you’re applying the technique now. And you are correct, it does get easier. .

    I too love the sound of a newborn cry. Silly me – didn’t record jenna’s cries, now it’s a full blown wail.

    ENJOY the moment

  3. i use the same technique let kw to cry till she finish, but she can cry for more than an hour non stop! The fuss almost repeat everyday! it seems like this technique not work on her! *sigh*

  4. I tried the Naughty Step on Belle before and it falied. Maybe she is too young to comprehend.

  5. Naughty Step? cool, will go check it out, thanks for blogging about it ๐Ÿ˜€

    meanwhile, u hand in there, i’m sure ashley will get over the jealousy stage v soon (esp when Grandpa’s here) and then she’s gonna be a super protective sis, u just wait and see, hahaha

  6. Gosh… Ashley u got to listen to mummy and be good ok.

    Maybe its just the start that Ashley is still haven really get use to it yet, soon she will learn how to.

    Take care! I realise that Aidan’s name was actually mention during ur pregnancy with ashley. hurhur..

  7. u doing very well! no worries abt d minor hiccups ๐Ÿ˜€

    aidan is A-D-O-R-A-B-L-E! love the sight, smell & sound of newborns! enjoy his lil feet & hands! i sure miss those!

    ashley will get 2 play wt aidan in no time @ all & they’ll enjoy each other’s company 4 sure!

    have a good rest mommy ๐Ÿ˜€

  8. Hats off to you, supermom. I’m diligently taking notes. You’re doing a great job and I don’t think that you’re losing your cool at all. Wish I could’ve spent more time playing with Ashley the other day, she was just warming up. She’s such a dainty little girl. Won’t forget the sweet way she said “ByeBye” and gave me a flying kiss!

    Aidan’s a handsome one! he’s so going to grow up to be a chick magnet *lol*

  9. No worries bout losing cool, I just lost mine as well…sometimes we have no choice but to discipline them. I’m starting mine as welll…

    love that scrap, very nice ๐Ÿ˜‰

  10. I am sure Ashley will phase out soon and later on, will be like Faythe, sayang Vyktore boy alot…..

    As for the urut, I think beside being vein, it’s a very good way to get rid of the wind also. So, how’s does it feel being binded for that nite?

  11. knowing what we are up to sounds like checking up on us whoi…. hehehe…. but yeah, i see u blog everyday also i feel like, wah, not bad, still got mood… hehehe….

    sure sakit hati when putting her at the corner yeah…
    but i think the part u sayang her and all is realy good… she’s learning… ๐Ÿ˜€

  12. hahaha…i have naughty wall, naughty floor, naughty chair, naughty step..naughty spot, naughty corner..errrrr…errrr……everwhere I go…sure got naughty-“something”… hahahahah!!!

    not really naughty isn’t…more like attention seeking missile…hahahahahahah!!!!

    goodluck..yar!!!! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  13. Losing cool? Me in the same situation as u…*sigh*..I have smack cruz on mother’s day and he cry cry cry and i ust “Naughty Step” to just left him there and he still run to me..where ever i go he flw and cry behind..*sigh* end up i still failed!! And i shouted till i got sore throat and lose my voice..sai lay lei! hahaha

  14. Dinah,.. I personally think ur doing very well there. Thanks for sharing on the Naughty step technique.. ๐Ÿ˜€

  15. that’s a good technique, i used it most of the time..
    btw,don’t carry heavy things during your confinement..:)

  16. hey you ghost blog reader ๐Ÿ˜‰

    i remember you said something like, grandparents are there to spoil their cucu. and the parents to discipline the kids. hehe… that is so true (and unfair lah!)

  17. hi, visited a few times buy first time leaving a comment ๐Ÿ™‚ congrats on new baby! my little one also called aidan, only not so little ๐Ÿ™‚
    lovely baby :))

    Thanks alot Sweetpea! and thanks for hopping by!:)

  18. Ha ha…cannot help laughing out loud about the part Ashley still wanted to be naughty after the punishment. With baby around, it’s ok to lose your cool, mommies are not saints ๐Ÿ™‚

  19. Hello, glad to know that you and baby Aidan are fine. What am I up to? Nothing much except for counting the days to pop loh, another 52 days to go….. ๐Ÿ™‚

    After reading how your Ashley react to the new baby, I also sort of worry about Dillon, not sure if I can cope with him…

  20. wow this is a good lesson to me. i shall remember your story and should i need this in the future i know the way to discipline a child.

    hahahah!:)

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